This guy is the most right on so far.noiseconjecture wrote:Now I have been married over fourteen years and some of my friends have teenage children here are some things I wished I had been told when I was in my teens/early twenties :
Girls complain boys don't listen to them. If a girl says something listen attentatively and don't interupt. When she has finished let her know you listened by referring to and replying to what she said.
Girls generally don't like show-offs or boys who are full of themselves.
Personal hygeine is essential. Ostentatiously wear a different t-shirt/shirt every day, it shows you are clean.
As said above - learn to dance - every generation of females (my generation plus my parents) complain that they want to dance while boys prop up the bar or make fools of themselves.
Even though girls to clubs half naked, talk to their face, not their legs, breasts or pants.
Girls are almost digital, if they are interested in you then you're fine, if they are not no amount of trying will get them to change their minds. In reality its girls who are in control.
Despite the silliness, giggling and obsession with trivia, girls generally are more mature than males.
Finally, sexist or crude jokes don't go down well in mixed company.
First thing's first - don't ever go out EXPECTING to hook up. Just assume that you're going out to have fun and that's it. If something happens, great! Don't put any pressure on yourself because if you do, you're more likely to look like an ass.
Secondly, you only have a couple minutes to make the right impression. When you meet someone, you need your "A-game" in full effect. The first 2 minutes of meeting a chick at a club is going to decide if you're getting any that night.
Be yourself, even if that means being nerdy. Be confident. Show that you're having a great time, let it be shown that you know everyone there by saying hi and waving to people.
You don't have to offer to buy a drink, but it helps. Buy one, but never more than that unless it's obvious there's some sort of a connection. Like someone said, don't be a "sponsor." Chicks go out to get free drinks and lead men on. Don't be a sucker.
Women will swear that they don't look for men with money, but that is horseshit. If they ask what you do for a living, either make it sound a lot more important and lucrative than it actually is, or just straight-up LIE.
Being college-educated is always a plus.
Hygiene. Fresh breath is essential. Make sure you have your hair trimmed on a regular basis and SHAVE YOUR FACE for fuck's sake! 90% of women do not like facial hair. Always wear deodorant and in the case of smoky bars/clubs, make sure you go just a little overboard with the cologne. A light amount is undetectable in such settings. Find a cologne that suits you well and apply it liberally before you go, that way your awesome manly scent can cut through the atmospheric stench and into the nostrils of women. TRUST me. Women love a good-smelling man.
It doesn't hurt to appear to be more sophisticated than the other guys. Instead of drinking draft beer, why not drink something like a martini? Women are always spying, and good taste is timeless.
Smoking is usually a no-no, but in some cases it doesn't matter.
Always smile. It shows that wherever you are, THAT is the place to be.
Being a part of the entertainment or the establishment helps. Bartenders, bands, dj's, etc... all get an automatic +10 stat bonus to pimpitude. ^_^
Also, you gotta have a sense of style. I'm not talking about wearing the same trendy style as everyone else in the bar. You gotta come up with something fresh. Something that makes you stand out from all the other guys in Diesel shoes, Abercrombie jeans, button up dress shirts and gelled hair. Be original, and bold.
Also, don't drink too much. If you get too drunk you can start looking like a jackass. Some girls might find slurred speech endearing, but most take that as a sign that you are a nimrod and aren't ever getting any pussy.
Another important one is that if a girl is obviously not showing interest, badgering her is not going to help your cause at all. Like I said, you get a chance to make that good impression and if you fail, you fail. No second chances. Do not stalk her at the bar, do not keep talking to her. Just move on.
But remember - if this is a bar/club you frequent, oftentime you will bump into these girls again and again, so keep in mind that you can plant the seeds early, and watch that beautiful little flower grow... ;]
